Women who lie, cheat, and deprive a father of seeing his daughter are overwhelmingly drawn from a small set of overlapping psychological & behavioral profiles. These are not “all women” or even “most women” — they represent a distinct minority — but they do account for the great majority of high-conflict, alienation-style custody cases.
Here are the recurring patterns that show up again and again in family-court records, psychological evaluations, police reports, and fathers’ accounts:
- High narcissistic traits / Narcissistic Personality Disorder (most common single driver)
- View the child as an extension of themselves (“my baby”) rather than as a separate person with a right to a father
- Cannot tolerate the father being loved or valued by the child → triggers devaluation & elimination campaigns
- Lie easily and convincingly when their image or control is threatened
- Cheat repeatedly (often with multiple overlapping partners) yet simultaneously play the “betrayed victim” card in court
- Borderline Personality Disorder or strong BPD traits
- Intense fear of abandonment → paradoxically try to eliminate the other “abandonment threat” (the father) first
- Splitting: father is quickly turned from “good” to “all-bad” / dangerous / abusive
- Chronic feelings of emptiness → seek constant romantic/sexual validation outside the relationship
- Very high rates of false abuse allegations when they feel they are losing control of the narrative or the child
- Histrionic + Machiavellian mix (“attention + power”)
- Crave being the center of drama and sympathy
- Skilled at impression management → present as the perfect victim/mother to lawyers, therapists, GALs
- Use sex/relationships instrumentally (both to hurt the ex and to secure new alliances/resources)
- Antisocial / sociopathic traits (less common but extremely destructive when present)
- No genuine remorse about lying under oath
- Will fabricate police reports, medical records, sexual-abuse claims, etc. with very little hesitation
- Often have a documented history of fraud, theft, bad checks, or other rule-breaking behavior long before the custody fight
- Severe unresolved trauma + revenge motivation
- Sometimes there really was infidelity / emotional wounding on the father’s side (or perceived wounding)
- The mother converts betrayal pain into a years-long punishment campaign: “He hurt me → I’ll make sure he never sees his daughter again”
- This group tends to be less personality-disordered and more “reactive,” but the end behavior looks identical.
Quick profile summary that covers ~80–90% of severe alienation + deprivation cases
- Strong Cluster B traits (especially narcissistic + borderline features)
- High entitlement + low empathy toward the father as a co-parent
- History of serial infidelity / relationship-hopping during or right after the breakup
- Weaponizes the child very early (within first 6–18 months post-separation)
- Almost always makes at least one serious false/misrepresented abuse claim (to police, CPS, or court)
- Receives strong enabling from at least one of: her mother, her new partner, her therapist, or online “abuse survivor” communities
The painful statistical reality: the more severely a mother lies under oath, fabricates abuse claims, and blocks a safe father, the more likely it is that she carries moderately-to-severely elevated Cluster B traits.
That does not mean every woman with BPD or narcissistic traits will do this — many don’t — but the women who do do this are very disproportionately drawn from that pool.
If you are currently living this nightmare, the single most predictive question is usually:
“Does she seem to take genuine pleasure — even quietly — when the child rejects you or is kept from you?”
If the answer is yes, you are almost certainly dealing with one or more of the above profiles.